This is part of my self-care series covering topics like sleep, nutrition, exercise, and how to feel empowered when life drags you down. These little acts of self-care add up, and when neglected can leave anyone feeling rough around the edges. I’m finding that a few simple changes in self-care is really all it takes.
One thing I’ve struggled with is how to finally fall asleep after everyone else is in bed. I get the kids to bed, and then run around the house picking up, doing dishes, and prepping for the next day. Then, of course, I get on my phone and before you know it, two (or four) more hours have passed! Urgh!
When my head hits the pillow, I have a hard time shutting my mind off. Do you ever feel that way?
I know that part of it is investing my time and creativity in a space where my body feels comfortable falling asleep. My bedroom is the last place in the house I’m usually cleaning up and decorating – and that has to change! It’s a well-deserved place to rest and retreat after a long hard day of mothering, work, etc.
I used to be a little bit intimidated by mediation. But recently, I have found meditations from YouTube that help me fall asleep. There are tons of free ones available, so I listen to different ones depending on my mood. I also have a white noise machine that I use once I’m done with the meditation to help me fall asleep. I got used to listening to white noise back when I was in law school (and the apartment walls were very thin). I can’t imagine sleeping without it now!
Cut Out Screen Time:
Cutting out screen-time is so important, too. It’s so tempting to check online one more time – but I’m learning to put my phone across the room when it’s lights out. If I do have to use my laptop before bed, I make sure to change the display settings to “Night-time.” Most computers have this now and it cuts out a lot of the blue light that tricks your brain into thinking it’s daytime. Your screen will be bright orange, but your mind will thank you!
Last summer, I needed to check my phone every night before bed because we were traveling, and with the time change, it was the right time for me to be online. Anyhoo – I bought these totally funky glasses, which I still have to this day! They actually worked really well, but I wouldn’t let people see me in them too often. Haha.
I Quit Caffeine:
I quit caffeine about four months ago (that’s another story for ya – whew, it was hard to give that up!) I only had the equivalent of two or three cups of coffee/day before I quit- but it affected my sleep and sanity more than I care to admit. Since I let caffeine go for good, my sleep is so much better.
A Good Bed:
Another game changer has been making my bed feel like a sanctuary. It dawned on me the other day how much of my life I spend in bed. Duh! I’ve been sleeping on a mattress that Evan and I bought ten years ago (and loved it then). But it’s sunken in and it hurts my back every single night. I wake up feeling old and creaky! I’m way too young to feel that way – haha.
So, I’m biting the bullet and finally getting a new mattress for our bedroom. I looked around a lot and am leaning towards this one, mostly because they have a 365 day return policy if we don’t like it. I have never bought a mattress online – so it kind of freaks me out, I have to admit!
Even though I don’t have my new mattress yet, I bought some fresh sheets for our current bed anyway – and that helps the whole sleeping experience feel a little luxurious. After I got my new sheets, I might have fantasized I was staying at a high end hotel in Paris. Or the Bahamas. If only…ha!
Anyhoo – I am getting more sleep now after making these few simple changes. Being better rested is helping my mood so much, and honestly, I think it’s really helped my depression/anxiety, as well. It’s amazing how transformative proper rest is for the body and mind. Who knew, right?
Of course, with small kids in the mix – that’s a whole other story! I’m not saying my sleep is perfect now (I have five kids, after all) – but it’s better than it was before. Progress not perfection…
What do you do to make your bedroom feel like a haven?
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